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So, this issue of when Carter will start kindergarten has plagued Josh and me for say 5 years now.  It has been a difficult decision.  We have went back and forth-from starting him now, waiting a year, letting him go to kindergarten then repeat it, etc.  Our final decision was made very recently.  We are going to wait to enroll Carter until next year.  On to the reasons….

1. Although I support everyone who homeschools their children, in a manner where they are socially active with children their age and they receive the education they deserve, it’s not for me personally.  That being said, Josh and I need to prepare our children spiritually to be in the public school setting.  I think we have failed at this so far.  So, we now have a plan and we hope to have Carter spiritually equipped for kindergarten next year.  Carter is a big follower, he does anything big kids say.  We hope to better prepare him to say no to peer pressure in situations that will inevitably get him into trouble.

2. I was a young starter in kindergarten.  As an October baby, my mom started me at 4.  I couldn’t drive when my friends could, couldn’t work, couldn’t date, etc.  I also went to college at 17.  I think I would have been more emotionally mature later in life (hs) if I started kindergarten at 5, who knows.  I do think as a boy, it will benefit Carter to be older.

3. We do not feel Carter is socially and emotionally ready for kindergarten.  He is having “fits/outbursts” I have no idea what to call them, behavior problems.  I think he needs some time to mature. 

So…what are we going to do?  I am going to stay home with the boys in the day.  I will keep Carter’s education up to par. We will have a schedule of library days, field trip days, etc.  I think he will be more than prepared academically for kindergarten next year!  I also hope to get some quality time in with Carter before he begins this process of school that he will be in for the rest of his life at home.

Controversy, wow!  People are VERY opinionated about this topic.  I have read some articles about “red shirting” your kids.  Yes, it has a name, it’s called red shirting.  Apparently many parents of boys are doing this to give their sons an athletic advantage. I have never even thought of this until I read the article yesterday. 

Carter’s opinion….I thought Carter may be upset about not starting kindergarten.  So, we talked him about the decision.  He was thrilled to wait until he is 6.  He is excited about being one of the oldest in class.  This made our decision easy.

So, it’s finally done!  The decision is made. No more stressing, researching, etc!  We have prayed for clarity in the right thing to do, and we have made a decision.  Nothing like waiting until the LAST minute!  Praise the Lord we only have one summer baby!



Hmmm…the complete title of this book is What are you waiting for? The one thing no one ever tells you about sex.  Therefore, it is a bit more difficult to review than books in the past.  I think it is very well written.  I like the layout, the order of topics.  It is not a book to just hand over to your 13-year-old.  However, I do think it is a great read for all women, and men.  I loved learning about yada love.  I truly enjoyed the scripture and Biblical references in the book.  I loved this passage from the book…

The ache in your heart to be known by and to truly know one man was placed in you to be a revelation of a much deeper love.  When you are in intimate physical and emotional communion with your husband, it will be a mere picture of the passionate love of a God who has been seeking your heart since before you were born.

Perhaps you have been seeking too–but somehow you missed hearing Him call your name.  A lot of counterfeit loves lurk out there.  After all, just as you have a Hero fervently seeking your heart, a Villain in eager to stomp on your soul.  He will stop at nothing to see the picture of God’s great love destroyed in your life.  The Villain will woo you in kindergarten starting with seemingly innocent boyfriends, will magnify your dad’s weaknesses so you will hate men, will put a microphone up to your parent’s mouths when their relationship is struggling so you will hate marriage, will lure you into sexting, and will carelessly trample on your virginity and then tell you that you are used goods. He doesn’t play fair.  He introduces lies and counterfeits to us in every shape and form.  He will do his absolute worst to rub out the true picture of God’s love in your life. 

So we keep seeking.

Searching for God.

Searching for true human love.

I wish I had these words as a young girl, a young adult, I love reading them now.  Although it’s too little to late.  As a parent, I hope to train my children in the ways of the Lord that they will be able to recognize the villain and when he is working in their lives.  I think this book is compelling, necessary to be read.  I cling to the understanding that it is the VILLAIN, not a promiscuous girl or a disobedient boy, but the VILLAIN who is trying to steer our children in the direction of forever losing God’s plan for them and keeping them feeling as used goods.  We have love and forgiveness in Christ.  We must fight to lead our children and to love them through their trials.